Tuesday, December 4, 2012

I hate this

About five years ago I was Relief Society President in the ward I was in.  That means I was in charge of running the womens' organization and also responsible for their welfare.  I only did it for six months, but that was probably all I could handle.  The bishop and I worked together as a team to do our best to take care of the needs of our ward.  I thought we did a pretty good job.  I am sure we missed stuff, and didn't do everything right, but we really tried.

Earlier this year I found out that this man had filed for divorce from his wife.  Totally shocked me.  Turns out, while his wife was in the states battling breast cancer, (and he was overseas) he had taken up with a former girlfriend.  Yeah, real winner here.  And, he had been abusing the family for years.  YEARS.  He was doing it while he was bishop.  THIS MAKES ME SO STINKING MAD. 

I was there, working with him, over to their house, their youngest was friends with my oldest, and I may have even let him go over there while the mom wasn't home.  I thought I could see through guys like this. 

I know it isn't productive, but I sent him a message on facebook.  And I know there are a lot of people out there that say things online that they would never say to someones face.  But I would have said everything to his face.  I also unfriended him.  Seems so lame, but I refuse to have anything to do with anyone that behaves like that.

I also hate being taken in by a guy like that.  I am grateful that his wife and kids are, for the most part other than visits, away from him and are safe.  The sad part is this girlfriend of his divorced her husband, and they will probably get married and there will be another set of kids for him to abuse. 

It. Just. Ticks. Me. Off.  And I feel helpless.  I wish there was something I could do.